Our post today is from Belinda . . .
Gentleness
Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and
dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness
and patience. Col 3:12
What exactly is Gentleness? According to
one commentary, it is the humble and meek attitude of wanting to help others
instead of being superior to them.
Dictionary.com describes it as kindly and amiable.
The word gentleness immediately brings to my mind
a mother stroking her child's head. And someone who is always moving carefully
and is slow to harsh action. I remember a former coworker who was so gentle,
everything she touched seemed to be made of marshmallow. I never saw her
"grab" anything. I envied her soft touch.
My dear brothers, take note of this; Everyone
should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry... James 1:9
I take this passage to be an instruction to not
let your temper get the best of you. Being gentle means not flying off the
handle at the least little offense and attacking others verbally. Does that
mean being weak and letting others mistreat you? I believe it means strength with control. It
allows us to be tender, caring and nurturing to others. We can stay calm and
not escalate problems or conflict.
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh
word stirs up anger. Prov 15:1
There were times in my working years that I would
receive a phone call from someone who was extremely angry, and looking for
someone to take it out on. Did it upset me? Oh yes! But I knew that professionally,
I couldn't attack back or be disrespectful. More often than not, calm and
gentle words on my part diffused the situation. In my personal life, I have
reacted the same way (MOST of the time) and it usually smooths ruffled
feathers. I am a person who avoids conflict as much as possible, so it was a
natural response for me. Sometimes with my family however, I wasn't so calm
with my responses. Just ask my kids. *grin*
While reading about Jesus' time on earth, I
realize how gentle he was. He was soft spoken, kind, quick to listen and always
understanding. We ask ourselves what would Jesus do? He would be gentle. And so
should we. Gentle words, gentle actions, gentle hearts.
A tough lesson to take on board. I have to re-learn it every single day. Very needed and meaningful post and thank you Belinda.
ReplyDeleteWe don’t see a whole lot of gentleness in our world these days. There’s a whole lot of anger, and pushing and shoving, the exact opposite of gentleness. So, if we can manage to show gentleness to each other and the rest of the people in our acquaintance, our difference as children of God will really show to the world. A challenge I issue to myself.......
ReplyDeleteSuch a wonderful and timely post! I used to work in a facility that helped people with mental health issues find meaningful employment or support them through training etc. I found that I had to learn to be totally unmoved at some of the behaviour and also to have a calm and gentle demeanour. Now this is NOT natural for me LOL. I believe this is how the Lord wants us to be all the time with each other. I have to say, I do forget, so thank you for the timely reminder! x
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