Slander . . . to make a judgement about someone, and to spread the word about them; to disparage and defame them.
Have you heard the expression, a "judgy" look? Or the expression "bunny disapproval"? I never will forget when I overheard a young person describing some people as "sitting there with such judgy looks on their faces." (Grin) Kinda made me glad that she was not describing me!
Sometimes we Christians can get pretty "judgy" about each other, can't we? Not a good thing.
I have heard some folks that judge other Christians about their salvation --- they say they know the exact time and day and who was around and what they were wearing . . . other Christians may not know the date and time, but they remember being at summer camp and they know that they were unsaved before, and that they were sure of their salvation after that. I don't think it's quite fair for those who say they know the date and time, to be judgmental of those who don't. It's really between that person and their Lord, right? In Acts 16:31, and in Romans 10, we can see that salvation is based on belief in Christ . . . it doesn't say "and if you can note the date and time then you truly are saved."
Sometimes Christians can be heard judging others and saying, "Well, I just wonder if Brother Sew and Sew is really saved....I sure don't see much change in his life." Ouch! Yes, it's true that some folks have a tremendous change when they start their new life in Christ -- almost like old clothes just falling away. Old habits are broken and a new life begins.
Others struggle more with those old habits. And their knowledge of the Word may not be as broad. So they are going to take longer to show the fruits of the Spirit -- but that doesn't make them a fake, and that doesn't mean that they are not saved. They are working at it, just like us, and just like Paul:
Let's take a good look at ourselves, and see -- are we giving our Christian sisters and brothers "judgy" looks? Bunny disapproval? Yes, we are to use our discernment, and our wisdom, but when it comes to judging, let's remember where WE once were . . .We know that the law is spiritual; but I am un-spiritual, sold as a slave to sin. I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord! (Romans 7:14-25)
To speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people. For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in malice and envy, hated by others and hating one another. But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior, ...Titus 3:2-7